Change can be hard, but identifying small adjustment steps can make your transition easier.
We got a new cat. I think I’m the one having the hardest time adjusting.
The cat we already had has mostly figured out his spot with the new kitten. The kitten seems to have stepped right into life in our household and knows that this is her place (oh, the joy of being young!). But me, I keep saying that I’m just not sure that this is going to work out. A second later she comes and curls up on my lap – honestly, how can I not love her? But then she bites my hand and again I’m just not sure this is going to work out…
Big adjustments take time. I am well aware of this fact. It took our adult cat about three months before he really seemed to relax at our house, before he seemed sure that this was where he fit and this was where he was going to stay. It’s been two years since my ex and I broke up and I am still adjusting to life as a single parent.
Change is good though. It is a time to allow yourself to look at things from new perspectives. It is the only way to grow. I am learning patience with this little tiger cat. I am also learning what fun a kitten can be, which reminds me of the joys of being young – and the joys of being a parent.
Our responses to change give us a tool with which to analyze our lives. Going from a stay-at-home mother to being the bread-winner, I often ask myself, “Is this working? Is this job/life-style/parenting method working? What is the most important thing to me? What is the least? Do I feel balanced?” The answers given by the little voice deep down inside are telling. Things feel incredibly unbalanced. I don’t feel like I am reaching my own goals, rather those of someone else.
Once I listen to that voice inside me, I then must ask myself, “What is needed to achieve balance? How do I get to those things that are the most important and how do I let go of those that are the least?” In this way, I am able to identify steps that I can take to be successful. In this way I can identify small adjustments I can make that will allow me to transition into a greater change with less difficulty and fear, and achieve what it is I am truly looking for.
Adjusting to life with a new – and different – member of the family is but a small change in the big picture. Nevertheless, living with the kitten helps remind me of the importance of patience and that life is to be enjoyed. It also helps me listen to the voice in my own heart that recognize that some changes need to be made in other areas of my life. Now I need to identify those little steps that will help me grow and then take them, just as this kitten is growing and adjusting to being a part of our family already.
Share your thoughts: Tell me about a positive change you made in your life by identifying and making small adjustments.